Love Made Visible

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For the sensitive, empathic woman with Work to do.

I see the ways that you've pushed yourself out into the world to the point of exhaustion, I see the way that you've been cruel to yourself in the face of your own needs, I see the way that you've tried to bend your impulses and energy to the will of the world. I see how you continue to question yourself and what you know is true. 

Take a deep breath.

Do you notice how profound the stress is in your body when you send a post or share an offer? Or, have you simply stopped trying or on the converse side, have you simply stopped paying attention as you push into the world in ways that go against your nature? Perhaps you swing between these two extremes, unsure of where to find your way. It is so deeply impactful to share your tender bits and offers with the world, isn't it? Be gentle with you.

Because the world needs you.

I don't want you to give up or push yourself to do what you "think" you should. As a sensitive, empathic woman who wants to be in the world making a contribution and enjoying it, I say that for every external event or expression, you have to find the equal and opposite deep internal reset and restoration.

No, you are not flawed. I promise.

I used to behave as if this need (which I've know about my whole life) was a flaw that needed to be ignored at all costs and that if I honored that impulse, I would be selfish. I followed that train of thought to my own detriment. Perhaps you can relate. 

I now know this is my own natural rhythm -- and to do my work in the world and not end up "taking care of myself" in dysfunctional, addictive ways, I must attune to my own rhythm. I must drink deeply of the practices that truly nourish me.

Only then am I able to express and share what I'm meant to. Only then am I in harmony with the beautiful inhale and exhale of giving and receiving. Only them am I honoring the truth of the way my innate wealth is meant to move in the world.

If you've read this far, I'm guessing this may be true for you, too. 

"Work is love made visible." -Kahlil Gibran

The way that you create, is the way that your wealth moves out into the world and there must be a devotion to this: Sacred Practices that let your expression be clear and true to your essence. But the other side of the equation (often ignored) is equally, if not more important, for you: the receiving. The receiving is a devotion to the Sacred Practices of tending to your energy and your deep needs and your desire for connection to deeper wisdom and truth - to let that feed and nourish you.

For your work to be the fullness of your love made visible, you must be receiving as much as you are giving. These two energies, in tension, are what allow you to create from overflowing, heart-opening, love. 

Honor the truth of how your innate wealth is meant to move in the world: expansion and contraction, giving and receiving, action and stillness. You have my full permission to offer yourself the depth and breadth of Sacred Practices that will support you, nourish you, and leave you full. 

The world, in fact, needs you. 

Do whatever it takes to make sure you can, and will, be able to live your dream of service and contribution in the most joyful and grounded way possible. 


I would love to support you in 2018 through the deep magic of Sacred Practice -- the power of transformation, taken into your own hands. 

In 2018, I will be offering a year-long school for 27 women who want to dive deep into creating change in unconventional and radical ways. The theme this coming year is tending Sacred Resources - body, mind, Divine Intelligence, deep intuitive wisdom, wise action and yes, money. Registration is open now.

Learn more about
The School of Sacred Practice

I'd love to see you there. 

xo.nona

How we Lift Others

Too many of you have been held down

In large and small ways, in direct and indirect ways too many women are dismissed, diminished and held back from their own greatness when, in an ideal world, we would be lifted and supported by those around us, those who came before us. Often, that is not the case.

This weekend, as Samhain approached, I was talking to my daughter about ancestors. I was explaining to her how each of us, we stand on the shoulders of those who go before us in the best of circumstances. We are held up, we are lifted high. Our ancestors offer us a springboard by which we fly. 

To See the Possibility Horizon

I told my daughter that my deepest desire, my most fervent prayer is that her father and I lift her high above our own shoulders so she reaches greater heights than we have. Tears stung my eyes and I realized once again, that is also my most fervent wish for the women who seek inspiration through my writing, for the women who sign up for energetic support through Medicine Vision, and for the women who choose to work with me individually. I want to lift you up so you can see to the horizon of infinite possibility. I want to offer you space to heal and to know the support of someone who deeply believes in you and your capacity to realize your deepest desires. 

Years ago, I was offered an image of myself helping others across a dangerous and swiftly moving river. One by one, helping women to cross the river and climb the banks. I believe all of us are called on some level to lift others, to reach out a hand, to propel others beyond where we stand. However, this requires knowing your strength and experiencing your own vast wealth of resources. 

To be the Woman You Are 

Not many women I know were actively lifted up by their ancestors. I certainly wasn't, nor were my immediate ancestors. I would say that through sheer stubborn will and an abundance of inner fire I clawed my way past being actively held down by those around me. I am grateful for my warrior's heart. I am grateful to the people and the unseen forces and allies who believed in me and supported me. I am grateful for the time I've had to heal because frankly, that climb was exhausting. 

In personal development, and Western culture in general, there is a damaging idea that we stand alone and that we, alone, control our destiny. Living in Zambia has simply amplified something I have come to believe over the last few years -- that this idea of singularly manifesting our destiny is faulty reasoning - this idea victimizes the victim and isolates us from seeking true support and opening to receive. It also weakens us. But rest assured, circumstances, culture, violence, ancestors, genetics, the nature we have access to, access to education -- we control very little of the outside forces that create pressure on our capacity to rise, to lift others and to be lifted. 

Knowing what I know about how so many Western women have been actively held back from greatness, seeing what I see among the people of Zambia who may not be held back by ancestors but by lack of water, food, healthcare or education (perhaps all of the above) I feel even more deeply that all boats -- and I mean ALL of them, rise or sink together. 

Whatever your work is, in whatever way you are called to lift others be it through raising children, working in a corporate setting, or running and building an entrepreneurial venture, it requires that you let yourself be supported and held. That you allow time for your own healing. That you stay filled up to the brim to keep your spiritual strength. I want you to feel the deep support of being lifted up, too, because wholeness and enlivenment begets the same. 

There is Time.

This call to lift others can sound impossible if you are tired, if you feel unworthy, if you feel there isn't even enough for you. This can sound impossible (and actually, wildly distasteful) if you haven't been offered strong shoulders to stand on or time to tend the wounds of your own climb if your ancestors refused to let you stand on their shoulders. 

I don't want my daughter to spend half of her life (maybe more) healing from her childhood and a punishing culture as I have done. I don't want you to spend one second more than you need to on the climb out of toxic relationships, or the healing and rest that absolutely must follow the climb beyond ancestors who hurt instead of helped.

It may seem there is no time to "waste" -- our bank accounts, our communities and the world need strong women who know themselves and their power to create positive change. That only comes when you've given yourself time to heal fully.  There is time for you: for your climb, for your healing and from there, to vision and act on a new future and to lift others. 

For you. 

Please know that your voice, your heart, your vision -- all are necessary facets of creating an enlivened wholeness individually and collectively. Acknowledge what you've climbed beyond. Acknowledge the ancestors you may still be climbing past and yes, honor the ancestors and the people who have supported and lifted you. Let yourself rest and heal. Give yourself the gift of someone, many someones, who will lift you up, who will celebrate your rise, who will help you see the horizon of possibility and help you take the steps to create that world. 

May you feel the support of many hands lifting you and in turn, offer your hands to lifting others in your time.

xo.nona

A prayer for walking through fire

I am barely settled. 

One day up, one day down, most days sideways. A transcontinental move of epic proportions from Colorado to Zambia. I'm in it. I'm in the fire, facing the challenge of overwhelming change. This missive is for me as much as it is for you. A smoke signal rising from the ashes for those of us who are walking through the fire of challenge. 

As I take one step and then the next through the fires of change, I'm reminded that there is a particular set of circumstances that feels like fire, but also a choice and a practice that has guided and shaped my life and my work: I believe that the way we dance with and walk through the fires that we face both within ourselves, and those that life provides, reveal the heart of who we are. 

I believe that the way we engage with the fire, more than anything else, defines our lives. 

We humans tend to seek comfort. 

I've experienced my share of fear and anxiety -- I say this to affirm that I'm no different from anyone else. I identify myself as someone who is sensitive, intuitive, a certain level of trauma in my life, self-aware, a body that needs extra care, spiritually oriented and committed to making a positive contribution to the world. I'm guessing you have some, or all, of these qualities as well. These qualities point to a greater need for safety. 

These are real aspects and qualities that require compassion and care and tenderness and, can be a real strength when tended well. I would even go so far as to say that when tended through diligent and honest self-care, these qualities are the foundation of being a skilled fire walker in day to day life. On the other hand, they can also become reasons that sensitive souls might justify disengaging. Wrapping up in a soft warm blanket of comfort zone and keeping the world at bay. 

The fire beckons us. 

We can recognize the call by paying attention to our fear and our resistance. Taking a moment (or two) to notice if what we are feeling is the signature of wise fear (full stop, turn around, don't do it) or if it's the signature of resistance/fear (there is something amazing on the other side of this fear... I wonder what it is?).

Listening beneath the fear for the truth: is there something beautiful, powerful and true waiting on the other side of this fear?

You know. 

This skill, this capacity to turn and face our fear, to meet the challenge, to walk through the fire, to vanquish our demons teaches us who we are. It expands our world and transforms us into the people we truly are, the women we were born to be. It gives us joy, presence and strength. 

Whether it's learning to stand up for yourself and what you believe, or marketing and charging appropriately for your work, or learning to set boundaries and say no, or speaking out and educating your family about racism, or learning how to push yourself physically by mastering a new skill (like surfing) or even moving to Africa - this is the invitation. There is no room for cynicism or apathy or numbing out. This is life itself calling you out, inviting you to risk it. 

Walk through the fire. Face the fear. There are endless opportunities for each of us to walk through the fire and in doing so, we expand into more of who we are here to be. There is gold waiting for you on the other side.

If you are afraid and it's time to walk through the fire, time to face you fear, this prayer is for you.

A prayer for fire walkers.

Fire. I honor you.
I honor you as a master of alchemy. An agent of change.
I honor you and the way that your smoke and flames wake me up, bring me to full attention.

May I be alert in your presence and listen closely to your wisdom.
May I easily discern whether to flee, or to brave the fire and face my fear. 

Fire. Guide me.
Teach me how to tend you wisely. 
Teach me how to be consumed by you, renewed by you. 

May I have the courage to be the warrior you ask me to be.
May I commit to knowing your power and in doing so, know my own.

Fire. Light my way.
Inspire me to burn bright, to ignite the courage of those around me. 
Inspire me to speak truth, and in doing so, inspire others to know their own truth. 

May I know the gifts you offer to those who are brave enough to court you.
May I enjoy the abundance of fertile wealth that you leave in your wake.

Fire. Knowing my truth, I face you.
Eyes and heart open, I walk through the embers, the smoke, and the flames.
Eyes and heart open, I surrender to your teaching, one step at a time. 

Show me who I am. Burn away what I am not.
Transform me into the woman I am in the heat of your glorious flames.

Fire. I honor you.

Walk with courage through the fire you face.

I am with you, sister. Share with me what you are facing with courage -- let me hold it with you and affirm your power, your affinity with the fire itself. 

xoxo.nona